For some reason, a lot of guys automatically start to act like dogs on heat when they see a girl that they are attracted to.
They usually end up acting like a desperate loser or come across way too needy and clingy. This is a massive turn off for women and I guarantee you it NEVER works.
Why being a “needy guy” will cause you to fail with women.
In the world of seduction a needy guy is very similar to the nice guy.
Both these guys never end up getting the girl that they want and end up being lonely and blame the people around them or their circumstances. “I’m too short, too ugly, too fat or too [insert negative trait her]” to justify why they failed with women.
However, what these guys do not understand is that they failed with women because of the way that the constantly demonstrated to the women that they are pursuing that they are CLEARLY not good enough for her.
How are guys needy?
If you ever find yourself in the situation where you do something for a girl then hope to see what she feels about it then my friend, you’re needy.
Now, don’t get me wrong, every guy is needy to some extent. We as social creatures look to others to give us some sort of self satisfaction. For example, if you were the richest person in the world, but you’re the last person alive, would you give a shit?
Hello no, you’d wouldn’t have people around you to envy you and you would have no one to impress. So it’s natural to be needy and want the attention and recognition of others. However, what is NOT natural and VERY UNATTRACTIVE is when a guy takes this to the extreme.
This is when a guy actually puts his own life on hold so that he can be of service to the girl that he is chasing. Examples of this include:
1. not drinking on weekends just in case she calls him to pick her up
2. not going out at all on weekends just in case she calls to pick her up
3. tagging along with her friends just so that he can drive her home
4. buying her expensive gifts and presents when she doesn’t deserve them
5. taking her to fancy restaurants to impress her when she’s done nothing to earn it
Why is this unattractive and shows extreme signs of neediness?
In short the man thinks by offering his time and services and money to the girl she’ll find him nice enough to date.
But that’s not how attraction works.
Have you ever wondered why Bentley’s are so special?
It’s because they are so expensive, in fact only the SUPER rich can afford them.
People do not value what they can get for free or is readily available.
That’s why the price of an artist’s creations sky rocket as soon as they die.
People KNOW that they cannot get anymore of their work, so their existing works become so much more valuable because it becomes rare.
If you’re a guy who seems to be too available and always “there” for the girl so much that you’re sacrificing your own lifestyle to suit hers, then you’re being way too needy and that’s turning women away.
What you need to do is turn this around.
You need to understand you can only start to act like her boyfriend and give her all the benefits of a boyfriend until you ARE her boyfriend or at least having sex with her.
Otherwise you’re just going to be a tool for her to be used.
Make her treasure you
You need to let her know that you are valuable.
Your time is precious.
You’re not on call for her 24 hours a day 7 days a week.
You only have limited time to go out and meet her and she should cherish the time she spends with you.
How do you do this?
Don’t do all the things I mentioned above.
Don’t do it at all until she EARNS it.
Remember, as humans we do not value something that we get for free.
In order for her to become attracted to you, you need to stop being so needy for her attention and start living a life of your own.
If you’re already doing these things then it’s time to stop right now. If you have been doing it for a long time then I’m sorry to say that this girl probably will never sleep with you.
Unless you totally disappear and transform yourself.
Yes, DISAPPEAR from her life.
Yes, totally break contact off from her for at least 2 weeks.
You need to create some space in her mind that is empty and she’s going to start wondering where you are. But when you come back remember to be an ALPHA male. That is, be CONFIDENT in the way you come across. Start actively flirting with her. Tease her and make fun of her. She’s going to think that you’re strange and not be used to this at the start because you set a precedent of being a needy guy before. That’s normal. Break through this phase and eventually she’ll either see you as a new person, or not want to see you again because she would think you have changed.
But know this, this is not a change.
This is an EVOLUTION.
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